Day 17: Love Promotes Intimacy

The Love Dare

"Nothing rivals the closeness that's experienced between a husband and wife...Someone who knows us this intimately can either love us at depths we never imagined, or can wound us in ways we may never fully recover from. It's both the fire and the fear of marriage...would they say you make them feel safe, or scared?" The Love Dare

This dare wasn't to difficult for me since Alex has helped by setting the example of keeping my trust in him whole. Whenever I hear him speak about others he always treads with sincere caution as not to allow gossip begin.  He speaks well of others and always wants to do the same with me.  

Day 16: Love Intercedes

The Love Dare



"Beloved, i pray that in all respects you may prosper and be in good health, just as your soul prospers."- 3 john 2

I still remember some of the first times I prayed specifically for Alex.  It was ... awkward sadly enough.  I wanted to pray for him, but the awkwardness made me realize that I didn't know how.  This area helped me work on how much I really do love Al.  I honestly believe in "Ask and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you" (Matthew 7:7) I figured to pray for Alex and his wellbeing.  His strength and patience with me.  Then I realized those areas are ones he already has covered.  So to point out some difficult flaws to God made me fee like I was a hyprocit. Though when I finally did I had a realization, Yep for those who know God can answer your prayers and he did.  He gave me insight right then of small things I can do to help with these areas.  Though It's difficult to keep my tongue held, or to keep myself at bay with patience.  I have learned even more to pray, pray for areas of your marriage that are difficult and I KNOW and you have to know that you will be answered... maybe not then but it'll come and you'll be happier, no excuses, you'll have your answers!!!

Day 15: Love is honorable

The Love Dare

"Of all the relationships I have, I will value ours the most.  Of all the things I'm willing to sacrifice, I will sacrifice the most for you.  With all your failures, sins, mistakes, and faults-past and present- I still choose to love and honor YOU"  -The Love Dare

I Chose to honor Al by the way I spoke to him.  Things went well and it was rather of an enoyable day.  I fell I can always work on helping him out with his clothes.  I struggle with keeping my temper when it comes with disorder.  I have been working on that and feel it's some other way I can honor him by taking care of him here at home.



Day 14: Love takes delight

The Love Dare

"One of the most important things you should learn on your Love Dare journey is that you should not just follow your heart.  You should lead it."-The Love Dare

I do some volunteer work on the computer for our ward.  I had set some time apart for it today, but it can be done anytime.  So when I saw this dare and Alex had come home.  He wanted to go out and get a slushy just around the corner.  I was midway through my project and while he had been asking me for awhile to go I realized I could work on taking sometime specifically for something he wanted to do right then.  I paused my project and off we went.  It was a nice peacefull walk and soon after we hung out for the remainder of the evening watching shows together and talking.  It was Very enjoyable. Taking time for another is always as or more enjoyable then spending that time doing what you yourself wants to do.



Day 13: Love Fights Fair

The Love Dare

"If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand." - Mark 3:25

Setting boundries and rules for yourself ESPECIAlly when arguing is very important!  Letting things get out of hand is simply not acceptable.  Something I have personally learned from family and friends.  Some things are just not accaptable.  Luckily enough Al and I had set some rules when we where first married.  And it's been helpful to follow them. 

Arguing, I understand, can get out of control if you don't check yourself so Al and I brought up our previously set rules and made sure to modify them or just talk over them again.

1. We Will Not Mention Divorce.

2. Never touch one another in a harmful way.

3. When voices begin to raise it's time to call timeout.

4. Never Go to Bed Angry.

While it's rather difficult to calm yourself down especially when you believe your the one with the pont.  It all goes back to all the lessons we've previously learned.  I am very grateful that we have set rules.  God has given us commandments and rules and he does it because of his love for us then why not set rules within our household to protect one another.  I mean honestly Are we really going to call it quits because an argument escelated from something silly like who didn't put the cap on the toothpaste?.... Is that really what our marriage is worth a $1 cap!!